DOVE Center Blog

The Mask of Concealment

09 September 2017 Published in DOVE Center Blog

They were the perfect family. You know, that family that has it all: the beautiful yard surrounded by the white picket fence, situated in an ideal neighborhood; nice cars, a boat, active in the community, the center of multiple social networks. Dad held a prominent professional position in the community, Mom was developing a high-powered career; they were raising beautiful children who were active in after-school activities and had busy social lives. Everyone admired their perfect life. In fact, many were envious and could only hope to one day have what this family had. Until the unthinkable happened.

The clown that never leaves

17 April 2017 Published in DOVE Center Blog

Sexual assault is a raw and brutal crime to survive. There are physical, emotional, psychological and financial effects that can last a lifetime. And even though survivors work hard to heal from the very real after-effects of an assault or rape, the reality of such trauma comes flooding back without warning and can trigger unwanted anxiety, self-doubt, sadness and anger.

The month of April is dedicated to sexual assault awareness. In an effort to honor those who have endured and survived sexual assault, we want to share this powerful poem. While personal to the author, it represents the experience of many survivors. We understand it may activate strong feelings that are not easy to feel or process, so please take care in reading it. We want all survivors of sexual and domestic violence to know you are not alone. We believe you. And if you need to talk, we are here.

I didn't see it coming

17 March 2017 Published in DOVE Center Blog

Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone, often developing gradually and worsening over time. The abuse isn't always physical, either. It can be psychological, emotional, and even digital. Domestic violence can take many forms, which is why it's hard to see it coming. 

Love is respect: Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month

13 February 2017 Published in DOVE Center Blog

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, an event that draws attention to the prevalence of teen dating abuse and the importance of healthy relationships. Being aware of the signs of abuse and learning about safe and respectful dating habits can help teens build positive relationships during a crucial time of life.

The stark reality is that teen dating violence is all too common. One in three teens experiences dating abuse, which is one too many. That translates to 1.5 million high school students reporting some kind of physical abuse from a dating partner every year. As teens are just beginning to form ideas about dating through the relationships they form in high school, it’s more important than ever to teach them about healthy habits early.

Speaking up for change: Desirae and Deondra Brown

17 January 2017 Published in DOVE Center Blog

It’s not easy to speak up about child sex abuse.

In fact, finding the courage to come forward can take years, or possibly decades. And even then, feelings of shame, fear, anger and isolation often resurface for survivors of abuse. Speaking up requires returning to a dark place, which is why reporting it to authorities can be so difficult.

Child sexual abuse knows no social or economic boundaries, and it is most often perpetrated by someone the child knows. Abusers can be manipulative, convincing their victims to stay quiet, or that the abuse is normal. They might isolate their victims and make them feel alone.

But the reality is, victims of child sex abuse are not alone. Every eight minutes a child is sexually assaulted in the United States. And for some, decades may pass before they are able to find the strength to speak out about the abuse.

For Desirae and Deondra Brown, it took years to come forward. Critically acclaimed pianists and members of the famed quintet The 5 Browns, they attended The Juilliard School in New York, toured extensively around the globe, and made numerous television appearances. However, for many years, they didn’t know that each other had been abused by their father — Desirae and Deondra each thought she was alone.

Happy Holidays from DOVE

15 December 2016 Published in DOVE Center Blog

‘Tis the season of twinkle lights, gift giving and caroling, and we’ve been getting into the holiday spirit here at DOVE Center. Over the past year we have been so very grateful for the incredible support of the southern Utah community. Together we have made safety and hope possible for survivors of trauma and abuse.

From all of us at DOVE, we wish you and yours a magical season filled with joy and glad tidings.

 

Dove can help

14 November 2016 Published in DOVE Center Blog

Have you seen the numbers? Even just here in the state of Utah, the statistics of reported sexual assault and domestic violence are staggering, and they don’t discriminate. But there is hope. If you are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DOVE can help.

Call us at 435-628-0458

What is financial abuse?

21 October 2016 Published in DOVE Center Blog

Financial abuse is something that is rarely talked about but incredibly common. This insidious form of abuse involves exercising control over the finances of another person. Often, those who suffer from financial abuse rarely speak out, since they might feel ashamed or trapped by their lack of control over, or access to, financial resources.

This type of abuse is also the number one reason why domestic violence victims stay in an abusive relationship, or return to one after having left. Financial abuse can take many forms, but here are a few examples of how abusers exert financial control: